• Mary Ellen Gambutti

Adoption Memoir-in-Progress

Updated: May 29

Thank you for following my journey, the story of a South Carolina baby girl adopted by an Air Force couple.

MY MEMOIR is about an infant girl, relinquished at birth in Greenville, S.C., who comes into the life of a childless couple, starting out in a career that will, undoubtedly, be full of change.

In my book, I write about the child's need for security as she is separated from her birth mother, surrendered to strangers, and placed in foster care as a ward of Catholic Charities and the court. After a year she is adopted by the couple.

I write about the child's early childhood, and her growing awareness of her dissimilarities to family and friends, and her loss of original family, and heritage.

In the telling, I've begun to find healing from what I know now as an adoption wound. I now understand it was an injury inflicted on me at birth by a mother, and by a system that willingly separated her from me, as though there were no other options. It was, especially in those post-war times to make families where nature couldn't.

Writing my stories helped me view the complications of my family's transient lifestyle, its continued separations, and anxiety it caused a child, who was separated at birth, and to my adoptive parents.

My quest for identity--my birth mother, family of origin, and my heritage--has been hindered by attitudes of secrecy and shame, and the sealed record system imposed on adoptees in South Carolina, and far too many States.

Infant in Car Bed 1952  Bottle propped
Early Spring 1952 - in the car bed I'd recently travelled in from Phillips Mercy Infant Home, Rock Hill, SC - bottle propped

Adopted baby 1952
Sunning in my new baby carriage March 1952 Sumter, SC

My adoptive mother, Agnes, and me at five months.

Spring 1952 baby
My new dad with me after church at 6 months

taking the bottle 🍼

Adoption, and a transient military lifestyle have given me much to write about--a journey of self-discovery.

Thank you for joining me.

Until Next Time...

Please visit my website pages, where my portfolio of published work is updated regularly.

Please visit my website pages, where my portfolio of published work is updated regularly.


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