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Your question at the end of your beautiful essay haunts me, "are we approaching a similar time in the Southern U.S.A.?" I believe we are but folks don't understand or know what is was like in "The Baby Scoop Era" so they have a hard time believing this can/will happen again in the U.S. Stories like yours and books like "The Girls Who Went Away" which discuss what happened to women during that time need to be shared more broadly.

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May 14·edited May 14Author

Thanks, Doreen. I think these laws and practices of forcing pregnancies are inhumane, at least, if not more aggressive and anti-woman as in B.S.E. The adoption industry promoters may be surprised to see the "market" for infants flooded with those "not up to their standard" or "unadoptable". as could be in cases of rape and incest, and pregnancies of minors. How do they see these harsh laws and practices as humane and ethical, I wonder. Commodification of infants.

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I totally agree!

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May 11Liked by Mary Ellen Gambutti

It is a trauma to be separated from one's mother, no matter the circumstance. I honor your process of learning your beginnings, the homes, the arms that held you as you imagine them. I hope that this Mother's Day brings you peace and a way home to the Mother who embraces us all.

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Thank you, Kate! I appreciate you.

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May 11Liked by Mary Ellen Gambutti

I honestly believe most people don't want to know. Yours is at least the sixth story like this I've come across in the past five years and, one way or another, I find that most people simply treat it as a thing of the past and as though it no longer matters. I don't understand it at all when this is still something that effects everyone's lives and plays such a large role in what is happening around us every day. Please keep telling your story, Mary Ellen, it is so important. Not just as a personal matter and not only as social history. But for the sake of our future as well.

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Alan, thank you. State laws that deny adoptees equal access to our birth records are gradually changing as awareness that adoptee rights are human rights grows. Thanks again!

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May 11Liked by Mary Ellen Gambutti

Thank you, Mary Ellen, for making this effort to put a human face on the cause.

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May 11Liked by Mary Ellen Gambutti

I have a young friend who was adopted and although she was raised by a loving, caring family, she struggles with the idea of her birth mother giving her away. It eats at her sense of self worth, even though she understands that her adoption was the best possible outcome, yet the sense of abandonment is sometimes overwhelming for her.

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May 11Liked by Mary Ellen Gambutti

Precisely. There is ALWAYS that element, and over the decades I’ve heard it dozens of times.

But when we contemplate what may happen—what is bound to happen—as a result of the new, restrictive laws coming into play because of the Court’s reversal of Roe, we will be seeing a flood of new adoptions over the next few years...unless Roe or something like it is reinstated. Which isn’t to say that we don’t already have a river of adoptions all the time that hardly anyone outside the process cares to notice.

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Yes, unwanted pregnancies carried to term feeds the corrupt adoption industry. Thanks so much, Alan.

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Thanks so much for for sharing. I hope your friend will find peace and comfort in the community of adoptees and allies who understand.

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